Monday, April 07, 2008

Do You Find This Creepy?

*this is not a paid post or advertising post but a real question from me personally.*

I've been thinking about this lately and thought I would see what other people's thoughts were on this. I have already started making arrangements for when I die. Hopefully that won't come for a long time but I hit a point last year where I decided I didn't want my family to have to deal with figuring everything out while they are grieving.

So last week I let the kids pick out the Memorial Urns that some of my ashes will be put in for each of them. I even saved up money for several months to buy fairly nice ones so around here talking about it has been like talking about the weather...

Me: "What do you think of this one Bret?"
Bret: "Too girlie. What about that one?"
Me: "Oh I like that. Do you guys want that one?"

Seriously, it's how we discuss it. Here is the one we chose; Mother's Touch Urn

Next I will be buying the cremation jewelry for each of them and a keepsake urn for Vin as well. Do you find this creepy and weird or smart? I feel deep down that this cancer is going to end up in my bones and I want to be ready for it. I want all this out of the way so we can enjoy the time we will have left at that point.

Some people think it is morbid and that it's not good for the kids. I think it's good for them to know it's a reality, it will happen someday, and then toss it to the side. We don't dwell on it (because again, I could live another 20 years if this cancer behaves) but accept it and to be honest, it has been very freeing for all of us. The kids even know what I want done with my remains, where my will is, and who is getting what material-wise.

How do you feel about this? Is this what you would do with your family or do you think there is a better way? I'm honestly asking and welcome all opinions even if you think I'm a sick freak.

Thanks.

2 comments:

clara* said...

no my dear i don't think you are a sick freak....you are a good mum.

if (God forbid) this thing does end you the kids will have a lot of grief and pain to work through - i think it's normal that you would want to be able to be with them and help them work through that while you are still there to talk to and hug! most people would like to be able to have a heads up so they can say goodbye and help their loved ones with their grief.

That being said, sure it's creepy. but that's hardly your fault. it's a shitty situation and you are doing what your family needs to help them when you can't be there.

you are quite the trooper doll. you rock.

Kristen@TheFrugalGirl said...

I don't think it's creepy at all...just smart.